Self-centred but romantic Afghans!

I have stopped asking fellow Afghans what their main hobby is because I can predict what the answer is: ‘poetry or reading it’. It is the same in Afghanistan, everyone I met was a poet. Not all their poems are about love but the majority of them tend to be.

It’s not just that, the choice of movies is also soppy. It’s either Bollywood love stories or Hollywood romantic comedies.

The pattern is followed by music as well. The majority of Afghan music is about “love”. The other music most Afghans listen to is again either Indian romantic songs or RnB which is more or less the same except for the language.

If you are a techno music lover like me then you always feel that you are a bit of an outcast. I was so happy to find out that ASAUK’s next event is not just a keyboard singer with cheesy songs that we have all heard millions of times but something different ‘a rapper’. It was a relief that there will be a change from the norm.

A friend once commented on Afghan’s saying: “All Afghans are in love but they just don’t know who they are in love with”. With time I found that statement to be so true.

Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with being romantic but the self centeredness that comes with it is not good. I think the reason that we (Afghans) are so self centred is because we all love ourselves far too much. We don’t know it but deep down the only person we love is ourselves. There maybe some psychological reasons behind it but I really don’t to get in to that.

It is that feeling that always stops us from appreciating others, their talent, good deeds and so forth. We have developed a sense of jealousy and we think everything should be about us. The world is bigger than one individual. There are billions of people on earth and they are all human and hence equal. No one is complete on their own.

Other people always have qualities that we don’t so we should accept this instead of getting defensive and disagreeing with all they say or do. We only do this to make us feel better about ourselves. We know they are right but we have to dispute everything they say. Accepting the achievements of others is important.

I maybe wrong so feel free to correct me if you think I am. I really want to know why this is.

If I am not wrong, then listen to some techno and you might find that you like it!!